A man who ghosted his ex more than a decade ago made headlines last month when he found out she was about to become his new boss. For fans of the the unfortunate turn of events, there's an even more dramatic end to the situation.
The man in question claimed he decided to stop all communication with girlfriend Sylvia when he realised, after three years together, that she wanted to commit to something serious and he didn’t. He packed his bags and moved out of the home they shared together when she was away visiting her family at Christmas.
Last month, he seemed to get his comeuppance after reading the biography of the new director joining the international school where he worked at as a teacher.
Yep, the new director was none other than Sylvia.
The letter the ghosting man wrote to Ask A Manager detailing the discovery subsequently went viral.
And now, there’s an update. The man wrote a new letter, and this is what it says.
First, he claims that Sylvia’s life wasn’t ruined by the ghosting.
Those who blamed me for ruining Sylvia’s life for good were wrong. She has done very well for herself. She is married, with kids.
And this is what he claimed happened next:
I immediately reached out to Sylvia… She did not get back to me. I was not sure she was still using her old email address and with a return to school day fast approaching, I re-sent the email to her new work email. I also dropped a short message to the HR. Next morning (Sunday!) I got a call from the chair of our board of overseers, asking me to meet him as soon as possible.
I met with him, together with Sylvia, the same day. As you can imagine, the meeting was incredibly embarrassing for me.
He goes onto explain the chair decided to put in some “measures” to avoid future problems. He found the measures “excessive”. They stated the two couldn’t ever talk to each other without a third person present.
He “resigned on the spot”.
I came out of this with no job, no severance and no prospect of another job in this city. I have to leave as I need to make a living.
He goes on to explain his partner won’t be able to join him for reasons relating to visas and their family situation.
I found out later that her husband comes from a prominent family here, everyone knows them. Nepotism is prevalent in this culture and family status really matters.
The moral of the story?
Stop ghosting people.