Slate’s advice column, Dear Prudence, was given a humdinger of a dilemma – and the internet has answered it definitively.
My husband and I started dating, got pregnant, had a child, moved in together, bought a house, and got a dog in that order. We’ve done really well for ourselves and finally reached a point where we could afford a huge blowout wedding to celebrate our lives with everyone we know and love.
And this is where the best man, John, comes in.
John stopped midceremony to propose to his longtime girlfriend, “Jane,” and reveal her pregnancy. I couldn’t even hear the vows my husband wrote or the rest of the ceremony over the noise of Jane’s happy sobs, her very surprised family who were also guests, and people seated nearby congratulating her.
Even the videographer cut to her frequently during the ceremony, and you can’t hear anything over the chatter.
When John gave his toast, he apologized for being caught up in the moment, and then proceeded to talk about he and Jane’s future with nary a mention of us. During the reception John and Jane became the primary focus of our guests. John even went out of his way to ask the band for a special dance for just him and Jane on the dance floor
She says she isn’t an attention-hog, and says she wouldn’t have minded if John proposed after the ceremony, but weeks later she’s “still seething”.
And the internet is very much on her side. And they have some great ideas for John and Jane's future wedding.