Woman finds out her fiance is her brother, then makes an even bigger mistake: asking the internet for advice

Joe Vesey-Byrne
Thursday 15 December 2016 08:30
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When one woman found out she and her fiancé were related, she went to Reddit for help and support.

To add betrayal into the mix, she also said that her fiancé had known for a year before she did.

To be clear, the couple were not just distantly related, like a distant cousin, it turned that they have the same father.

The poster, going by the bleak username "oopscest" stated she and her fiancé had met in a table top role-playing game.

In a story so structured as to endear readers to the couple, Oopscest set out to establish why they were a nice couple.

Both were nerds, both were shy, both were very happy and had only had a few "snags".

Then this is how it came about:

Oopscest's father had been absent from her life. Then she found out that the man she met that she assumed was her fiancé's father was actually his step-father.

Her mother-in-law showed her a photo of the fiancé's real dad. You guess it: same guy.

I don't know how I kept from screaming and stayed conscious. I excused myself from the room and promptly threw up. I'm pretty sure she thinks I'm pregnant now; which is just a whole other can of worms unleashed.

Oopscest confronted her fiancé. It turned out he knew. Because that's OK and not vomit worthy.

I got home and confronted my fiancé about it. I was crying. I was screaming. He just sat there, fidgeting. Eventually, he admitted that he's known for a year but didn't want to lose me. Since we always planned to be child free, he didn't see the problem with just keeping it from me.

Oh well, doing it Lannister style is obviously OK if you're not making a Joffrey.

I'm betrayed. I'm disgusted. I'm hurt. I'm ashamed. I'm heartbroken. I don't know what to do. I've invested so much money into this wedding and much of it is non-refundable. On top of that, I don't know how I'm going to explain this to my family and friends. Worse yet, I love him. I know we can't be together; but until yesterday, I thought we'd grow old together.

What do I do? What the f*** do I do?

To nobody's surprise, Reddit was pretty chill about it. For instance turingtested offered this counsel:

Huge difference between meeting unknowingly as adults and being raised as family. You have done nothing wrong. Maybe I'm way off base, but the biggest issue to me is that your fiancé hid it from you because it would upset you. Not a good precedent.

This is one of those decisions that is so personal that I feel kind of like a tool even commenting. That said, I wish you all the best. Once again, you've done nothing wrong.

And another user jupitaur9 said:

OP's fiancé knew for a YEAR. OP did nothing wrong. Her fiancé did.

And I bet he didn't do it just to not upset her. He did it to be able to continue the relationship, because he suspected she might break it off if she knew.

Oopscest updated her original post, and with kind of an ungrateful attitude, told Redditors they were all being a bit too lax about incest, and should be more judgmental.

As a side note -- I gotta say. The majority of you seem to be totally cool with the idea of brother-sister incest. I know the internet is kind of a depraved place; but I wasn't expecting that AT ALL. Unfortunately, I don't think that same attitude would be mirrored in the offline world. And, even if it was, I'm not sure I can go through life as the girl who f---ed and married her brother.

Rude.

She explained that since her original post, the couple/siblings had told his step dad and her mother about their revelation. The parents did not respond well to this, and decided to cut off their son (the fiancé).

Oopscest was most dismayed because his parents had been paying for a portion of their apartment.

In the most recent update, the bride-to-be confirmed the couple were going to split.

Hoping for some Jeremy Kyle respite, she said they were planning to take a DNA test.

The way they reacted was just a taste of how we feel others will respond, so we've decided to break up. However, before we cancel our wedding plans outright, we are going to speak to our father and take a DNA test. Thank you to everyone for their support and kindness ... I just wish things had had a more positive end. This entire situation is just F***ed.

We still remain suspicious about this whole thing.

Oopscest seems a bit of a light-hearted name given the severity of the situation, and her posts are quite chipper for someone who's half brother has been dating them.

Maybe she's just dealing with it really well.

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