Woman shares her experience of being 'slut-shamed' by a nurse during STD check-up

Joe Sommerlad@JoeSommerlad
Friday 19 July 2019 15:15
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One of the many sympathetic but angry response to the woman's post(iStock/Reddit)

A 21-year-old woman has taken to Reddit to recount her horrific experience at the doctor's after she was "slut-shamed" by a nurse practitioner following a sexually-transmitted disease (STD) check-up.

The writer had recently had her first one night stand with a partner she had "developed deep connections with" - and used protection - but afterwards noticed some disturbing symptoms and headed for the clinic.

I went to an urgent care because I wanted to see if there was maybe a simpler answer to this problem (yeast infection or UTI) and if not, I wanted to send my urine off for an STD screening.

My doctor asked me a series of questions (when did you become sexually active, when was your last sexual partner, how many sexual partners, etc.), all of which I was up front and honest about so she could better treat me.

The diagnosis was that she had contracted a yeast infection and an STD test was scheduled.

But as she was getting up to leave, the nurse practitioner asked her to sit back down and delivered the following admonition:

With all of that being said, you're 21 years old, you really need to guard and protect your character.

Astonished and angered, the patient gave her a "what the f***" look and the practitioner continued:

Well you know, guys get to have sex all they want and nothing bad comes out of it for them but you know us as women we can't be doing that as much because we have to protect our character.

You're going to want to have kids one day, and the way you're living your life now could really hurt you and your chances of having a kid with a good man.

Writing about her experience on Reddit's Am I The A**hole? forum, the woman announced her intention to report the nurse practitioner for her patronising and sexist stance, explaining that she had been "in too much shock" at the time to answer back.

I was open and honest with this woman in hopes that it would help her better treat me and in turn I get slut shamed for it?

I don’t want to go after anybody’s job, but I don’t want other women to have to go through this same thing just for having sex.

After being encouraged by the forum's contributors to pursue the matter, she later did tell the clinic's manager who was receptive and promised to act.

The lady was very nice, and once my complaint was heard she said she’d “call the doctor (her supervisor)” right away and to expect a call from him on my cell.

Reddit regular inevitablegirlie perhaps summed the affair up best when she said:

This is rude, regressive, none of her business and could actually deter women from getting care.

HT Someecards

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