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Beauty is pain.

For 40-year-old Jane Curnow, a woman whose good looks have allegedly lost her friends to jealousy, given her unwanted attention and led to depression, the old saying cuts particularly deep.

Speaking to news.com.au, she recalled how, following the end of her second marriage, she began dating and realised “how much attention” men were giving her.

Curnow was bewildered by the attention, and more so by the fact that so many of her female friends were dropping off the scene.

Women were (and still are) jealous and resentful towards me but, at the time, I didn’t put it down to my looks and their own insecurities. 

I’ve lost many friends and always thought it was my fault. I didn’t attribute it to my looks until my 30s when so-called friends walked out on me in bars because of the male attention I received.

At the age of 32 and after years of suffering, Curnow was diagnosed with depression. She suffered with the illness for almost a decade, and began to equate what it meant to be happy, with how much men found her attractive.

As a result, she went through a period of time where she was obsessed with her looks.

On reflection,

I realised the power of my appearance, but the resulting feelings were not of pride or happiness but of incredible pressure.

I asked myself; If I’m as good looking as everyone says, then why am I so unhappy? Why aren’t I living the dream?”

If you don’t love yourself without the body and looks, this doesn’t change when you do. In fact, it only highlights how much you hate the person inside. You end up attaching your self-worth to the outside which is the wrong way around.

Now, at 51 years old and working as a fitness model and lifestyle coach, she's keen to empower women and teach them how to embrace both their inner, and outer beauty. Just like she has.

H/T news.com.au

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