“Babies don’t have self-regulatory mechanisms developed yet to determine ‘I feel tired’ = ‘I should close my eyes and go to sleep’. Adults have to help children learn how to take care of themselves by creating an environment for good sleep.”
In another TikTok, Bender responded to the criticism that “kids thrive on structure”. She doubled down on her analogy, saying:
"Imagine if your little sister came to you and said my husband puts me in a container I can’t get out of every night. So you go over to her house and you inspect the container and you notice bite marks and claw marks from her trying to escape.
"And then you ask her husband about it and he says my wife thrives on a schedule. Look me in the eyes and say you wouldn’t be upset."