His remark left her “taken aback” and she explained that she wouldn’t pay his mortgage but would contribute to the house in other ways, like paying for utility bills and groceries.
She also explained that, if they happened to break up, he would still have a house but she’d have nothing to show for paying half a mortgage.
Her compromise of offering to pay to nicely furnish the house was refused and still insisted she pay half the mortgage.
She wrote: “He said that I still need a place to live, and that if I was going to be paying rent anyway, paying his mortgage would be the same thing. He said I’m being an A-hole for not wanting to pay it.
“My boyfriend is a smart man so I don’t know if he doesn’t see the logic (or lack thereof in my opinion) of what he’s saying or if I’m being dumb and it’s not a big deal.”
People in the comments were firmly on the girlfriend’s side of the argument.
One person wrote: “NTA [not the a**hole] the only way you pay half the mortgage is if you’re on the actual mortgage.”
Another replied: “Yikes. He is demanding you pay for his house and you guys are only 1.5 years into dating? It sounds a bit like his ego was hurt after learning how much you make and his retaliation is trying to guilt you into this. Don’t do it.”
Someone else commented: “NTA. I think what’s bugging you is that he made a declarative statement about you making half of his mortgage payment without asking you. That’s how I read it.”
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