A wedding is known to be a celebration of a couples’ union. So throughout the festivities, the attention should primarily be on the newlyweds.

But what happens when someone appears to try and redirect the spotlight away from the couple?

Well, you might just get asked to leave altogether, which is exactly what one man did when he asked his brother-in-law to leave his big day after handing out invitations to his own wedding.

The man in question anonymously posted to the Reddit thread, r/AmITheA**hole, began the discussion by mentioning that his brother-in-law is a doctor.

“He’s a doctor and takes pride in his line of work and treats others as less than. Admittedly, he’s civil enough to be around; he’s a dad to a 16-year-old daughter. He’s engaged and was supposed to get married last month but postponed because he had a fight with his father-in-law,” he wrote.

The man also wrote that the brother-in-law tried to get involved in his wedding by ridiculing their “food menu.” He also tried to dictate who could be invited because of his “prestige.”

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“And [he] also started sulking because he wanted his fiancee to be maid of honour, but my wife and I didn’t agree. Days before this wedding, he came to us and asked if he could announce his wedding date before the ceremony begins but I politely said no. He said fine and dropped out,” he said.

On the wedding day, the brother-in-law showed up with his fiancée and daughter, but in the middle of the ceremony. He also said he didn’t take a seat and started greeting other guests while handing out his wedding invitations.

“I was upset but couldn’t interrupt the ceremony, but obviously, people were distracted, which was awful. The ceremony was over, and he was still handing out his wedding invitations and talking about how his wedding will look like from the atmosphere to the venue etc. Basically putting my wedding down in every way he could,” the man said.

He then approached his brother law to ask him what he was up to, and he told him that it wasn’t appropriate to have guests’ wedding innovations at his wedding and how this was “disrespecting” his marriage.

The brother-in-law didn’t take to kindly to the confrontation and started going down the list of things he didn’t take into consideration for the day, such as letting his fiancée be the bride’s maid of honor,” among other things.

“He then literally asked, ‘How dare you make today all about you?’ Do you own Wednesday?’”

That was when the man was at his wit’s end and told him to leave the wedding.

Angry groomAngry groomShutterstock / Alexandru Logel

The brother-in-law’s fiancée and mother-in-law tried to prevent him from following through with his decision to kick him out of the wedding, but he was adamant. Naturally, the brother-in-law was furious, and the man faced backlash from his in-laws over kicking his wife’s brother out.

Now, he’s expected to remedy the situation and apologise to his brother-in-law, or he won’t be invited to his special day.

As a result, he wanted to know if he was an a**hole for making him leave the wedding early, “excluding him from the rest of the celebration.”

In the post’s comments, people seem to generally agree that he is not in the wrong because it was his “wedding.”

“I’m sorry, he handed them out MID CEREMONY? What kind of delusional world do you have to live in to do that? Not the a**hole (NTA) at all, and I wouldn’t go to that wedding even if you are invited,” someone wrote.

“NTA. He wasn’t there to support her. He was there for himself. Good on you for kicking him out. His behavior was disgusting, and how dare he treat you and his own sister like that! Is your wife ok??” another person added, seemingly concerned for the wife.

Someone else wanted to know why he “would even want to attend” that “jack**’ wedding,” to which he responded with: My wife says she wants to go, and I have to be there with her. Even if my apology isn’t sincere, they just want me to apologize to him, so it ends the conflict, and we can be ‘civil’ to each other again.”

To genuinely keep the peace amongst others, it seems that it’s best not to make things about yourself on the most significant days of others’ lives.

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