Nine things you should never ever ask your significant other

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Photo by Kevork Djansezian/Getty Images

We've heard that honesty is always the best policy, not only in life but in relationships. But surely there are things you should keep to yourself?

After trawling the net (and our collective brains) we have come up with ten things that you shouldn’t ask your significant other, on pain of death (or at the very least stony, prolonged silence):

1. Am I the best you have ever had?

2. Isn't [insert mutual friend here] incredibly sexy?

3. Do you like my mother?

4. Why are you wearing that?

5. Can this be an open relationship?

6. Why do you have to be such a [insert expletive] sometimes?

7. What’s your debit/credit card pin number?

8. How many people have you slept with?

9. Are you still in love with your ex?

To see how solid this advice is, we turned to relationship expert and dating coach Joanne Barnett for some advice:

Are there certain subjects that a significant other should not, for the sake of the relationship, talk about or bring up?

Sometimes I suggest that you think before you speak, you don’t always have to express everything that your partner does that irritates you and really ask yourself if this is going to be productive?

Being able to communicate with your partner is the glue that will hold your relationship together. You need to be able to listen to what the other person is really saying and not react, to be able to make sense of what they are saying from their world and not yours. It’s a real gift to be able to listen and hear each other and to acknowledge the other person.

What destroys relationships?

The biggest destructors of relationship are money, and a lack of a shared value of how your attitude is towards money.

Joanne also cites pressure from parenting, jealousy as a result of insecurity, and a lack of love as other reasons that relationships are not successful.

So there you have it. Technically, the best thing for a relationship is honesty.

Does that also mean certain questions can be healthily avoided?

Yes, yes it does.

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