“For my friend’s three-day wedding, I had to buy three different dresses (including alterations, and specific shoes which totalled over $700. She also wanted specific hairstyles for each day.
“Unfortunately starting in March my hair started to deteriorate. Due to health reasons, my hair was falling out in chunks and in May I made the difficult decision to cut my hair.
“I told the bride about my decision two weeks before the wedding and she didn’t say anything bad. The following week, she came over to my house and when she was about to leave, she brought up that she was concerned about my haircut and I told her it would look good even though I wouldn’t be uniform with the other bridesmaids.”
However, it seemed the bride wasn’t too happy with her answer, as the following day she was sent this message: “After our recent conversations, I’d like to remind you of my boundaries: I’ve been very accommodating and graceful, but I can’t allow you to disrespect me.
“As you know, my wedding has been something I’ve dreamt of for many years. (Husband) and I have invested a lot of money into the video and photos of this day and as we reflect on this day in the further we want to see our vision reflected in the memories.
“Since I asked each of you to be bridesmaid in 2019, I’ve been very clearly and very communicative in my request. The timing of your decision to cut your hair and not income in advance is very upsetting to me. I would have felt respected if you had communicated with me more than a week prior to the wedding, so we could have worked together to find a collaborative solution.
“Your inconsistencies have concerned me and while I sympathise with your health concerns, I’m not willing to compromise my vision to accommodate you (or anyone else) when you have informed me in advance and we could have found a better solution. Since this is something you can no longer fully commit to, I need you to please step down from participating in my wedding.”
The ex-bridesmaid continued said she then sent the couple an invoice for the costs she had incurred prepping for the big day. But neither of them replied so she “decided to take it the court.”
“I was told I was inconsistent and selfish after I spent the past two weeks helping her plan the wedding shower, I worked with another bridesmaid to surprise her with a bridal shower after our bachelorette trip had to be cancelled. I spent HOURS helping her out with wedding details. When she asked me to help her tone up before the wedding I sent her a personalised workout program and even went with her to the gym to show her the ropes.
“When I agreed to be her bridesmaid I was more than willing to oblige with what she asked even if at times it was a lot of time and money. So am I the a**hole for taking her to court because she kicked me out for cutting my hair?”
Reacting to her post, many said she was in the right. One person replied: “Should have had the lawsuit served to her at the altar”.
Another said: “What a horrible, heartless friend she is. You’ve done your absolute best to be involved with her wedding/bridal shower, and helping her so much in addition to paying hundreds for your dresses etc. and she kicks you out because of your hair?”
A third added: “I can’t imagine how big of an a**hole you have to be to ask your friends and family to come to your three DAY wedding and have to spend hundreds of dollars on it. At least we know this person will be miserable because there is zero chance the three days of hell go exactly as planned which will destroy her precious vision.”