Getting married relies on a multitude of things - love, compatibility, shared values and giving up your Netflix password, to name a few. But there are certain things you really shouldn't demand of your future partner for life.

Reddit user Toofat2wife says her boyfriend of five years wants to marry her and have children, but he won’t be proposing until she becomes “more fit”.

The 28-year-old said in a post that she has struggled with her weight since being a teenager, but despite getting down to a “normal” weight, she recently put some back on due to an injury.

She explains:

He says that he wants to spend his life with me and that he isn't going to break up with me but he really wants to see me more fit. Marriage is more important to me than him, he would be okay with staying common law for the rest of our lives.

She says she’s already active and does go to the gym, just not consistently. She eats “fairly healthily” and agrees she needs to be more active.

But, to be honest, it sounds he’s making it pretty difficult:

I even asked what his definition of "fit" is because he claims he doesn't think I'm fat but he couldn't give a solid answer. I got pretty snarky and said how am I supposed to fit your ideal level of fit if you don't when know what that is.

And she admitted being confused over what to do:

I don't want to make a bad decision by breaking up with him if I'm simply over reacting. He's my best friend and I really enjoy our life together.

Reddit users were more firm with what she should do in this situtaion; giving advice such as "Work on your fitness so you can run away from him".

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