Bride ‘mad’ she has to return borrowed dress despite disinviting the person who owns it

A woman has taken to Reddit to vent about how, despite being disinvited from her brother’s wedding, the bride still expects to borrow her wedding dress.

The 27-year-old said that when a wedding invitation came that didn’t include her wife, she asked her sister-in-law why. Apparently, the bride’s parents had been “giving her hell” for inviting her, as they don’t like the couple “for obvious reasons”.

Despite this, the bride was “mad” when she asked for her wedding dress to be returned to her before the wedding.

Posting on the Am I The A**hole subreddit, the woman explains that she and her sister-in-law are close, and have the same sense of style. However, her family are “vicious” and “comment on me and my wife and act as if we were less than.” She said usually they are able to ignore them as they only see them on big occasions.

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When her sister-in-law said she liked her wedding dress, the Redditor was more than happy to lend it to her for her big day.

However, when the invitation arrived with only one name on it, alarm bells started rigging.

She said: “I called my sister-in-law to ask, and she tells me her parents were giving her hell for inviting me and my wife because they don’t like us for ‘obvious’ reasons and after a lot of fighting they agreed that I come alone since I’m the groom’s sister, but not bring my wife.”

Her sister-in-law apologised and explained that her parents are paying for the wedding. Although the bride’s parents “messed with the entire guest list”, the Redditor said she wouldn’t go unless her wife goes, too.

She wrote: “She got upset, telling me to let it go, but I refused and she ended up taking back the invitation saying she was sorry she just didn’t want any drama at her wedding.”

“I said ‘fine, no hard feelings’ and asked my brother to send my dress back to my place. My sister-in-law was stunned after she found out I took the dress back. She came over crying begging me to let her have it since she’s not the one with the budget and her parents told her to pay for her own wedding dress but she has no money.

“She said she loved my dress and promised to take care of it and return it but I refused.”

She went on: “My parents got involved, telling me to let her have it and reminded me of how strong our bond is but I said it clearly wasn’t as strong as I thought it was because she let her parents exclude me and my wife from the wedding.”

She said she isn’t angry, she just doesn’t want to give her the dress after everything that happened.

She added that her sister-in-law is “mad” and seemed to be hoping she would change her mind by texting her every day in a bid to “pressure” her into lending her the dress.

The comments were overwhelmingly on her side, with one commenter writing: “If your wife isn’t ‘good’ enough to be invited for obvious reasons, the dress you married her in isn’t either.”

A comment with 14,000 upvotes called her sister-in-law a choosing beggar, and questioned the sister-in-law’s gall to “sh*t on your sexuality and marriage, and then feel entitled to one of the most personal symbols of that in your own wedding dress that you married your wife in.”

Another Reddit user wrote: “Choices have consequences. Your SIL [sister-in-law] is choosing to not have you and your wife at the wedding. The consequence of that is she doesn’t get to use your wedding dress.”

With the parents seemingly dictating the guest list, it seems they would be the type to enjoy creating a list of rules around what guests can and can’t do during the wedding too.

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