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We may be getting better at talking about mental health on a societal level - but sometimes it's the one-on-one, intimate conversations that are the most daunting of all.

It can be tricky to articulate complex or challenging feelings to your loved ones, especially when you're in the middle of them. BuzzFeed performer Kelsey Darragh, who suffers from panic and anxiety disorder, took to Twitter with a solution that works for her.

She shared a list she made for her boyfriend that helps him understand how to help her when she's experiencing a panic attack.

Panic attacks can be seriously terrifying.

But from the simple things ("Keep breathing with me!") to a reminder to stay patient and calm with someone suffering a panic attack, Kelsey's list touched both fellow sufferers and those trying to support them.

People loved it - and shared tips of their own.

Whether that's grounding techniques...

A gentle voice...

Or even something as seemingly simple as a cold cloth.

Here is Kelsey's list in full (edited for clarity).

1. "Know that I am scared and won't be able to explain why, so please don't freak out of be annoyed with me."

2. "Find my meds if they're nearby and make sure I take it."

3. "Breathing exercises are going to frustrate me but they are vital. Try and get me to sync my breathing with yours."

4. "Make gentle suggestions of things we could do together to distract my panic. (Don't tell me what I need/should do - and listen when I say no to something)."

5. "For dissociative panic, remind me that this has happened before and this too shall pass! It always does, but it's scary when it's happening so maybe tell me some fun facts about me or our life together that will make me smile or laugh."

6. "Sips of water can be helpful but don't tell me I need to eat or drink because trust me like I'm going to vomit."

7. "Keep breathing with me!"

8. "If we can leave where we are - take me home!"

9. "Please be really really nice to me. I'm not feeling like myself and I'm embarrassed. Feeling guilty already for putting you through this so please don't get frustrated with me."

10. "Sometimes a really long big, loose, long hug will make me feel safe."

11. "Helping me breathe will be hard but so key!"

12. "If it's really bad - call my mum or sister or BFF on the phone for me!"

13. "Tell me not to fight it - rather, let it pass through me. The more I try to control it, or for you to try and control it, the worse it will be."

14. "Empathise with me! You may not get it, but you get me!"

15. "Once it passes (like hours later), open up a dialogue with me about it. How'd you do? What can we do next time?"

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