Teenager’s homecoming dress sparks debate after being shamed on Facebook by adults

A 17-year-old girl from Alabama was shamed for her homecoming dress on Facebook—by adults.

Grace Brumfield, the girl in question, is a high school junior that spoke on some of the commentaries from adults that had strong feelings about her choice of dress.

In conversation with BuzzFeed, Brumfield’s school recently held their homecoming dance. She went with her boyfriend, Zach, wearing a dress that she had fashioned to slightly resemble Princess Diana’s “black revenge dress.”

“I had so many compliments on my dress, and it was our first homecoming since Covid... I made so many great memories, and the environment was just out-of-this-world amazing,” Brumfield told the outlet.

Regrettably, Brumfield’s jovial homecoming experience came to a sudden stop after her boyfriend’s mom shared their pictures to a Facebook group called Sunflowers and Daisies, who she said told her there were around “32,000 likes” with lovely comments and “negative” ones.

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Brumfield said that she felt saddened by the negative responses because she was “confident” in her appearance that night, and she didn’t want that feeling to be “stolen” from her because others in life had picked on her.

She also said that she was “shocked” by how mean some of the comments were, especially because a majority of them were from women who “were mothers and grandmothers.”

The group administrators have since removed the Facebook post.

Taking to TikTok, Blumfield showed snaps of her photoshoot with her boyfriend as well as screenshots of some of the negative comments.

Check them out the video below.

Warning: Some of the comments mention sexual assault.

People on TikTok were quick to point out the bullying aspect of the negative comments.

“Older generation spewing their bad teachings,” someone wrote.

“Parents are so concerned about bullying yet are fine with it once their middle-aged self bullying minors on Facebook,” another added.

A third said: “[I] guarantee you every one of those [adults] has told a child’s ‘if you can’t say something nice then don’t say anything at all.’ Then there they are.”

Out of all the comments, Brumfield further told BuzzFeed that she was hurt by a comment from a woman named Rhonda.

“As a victim of sexual assault, it just made my blood boil because clothes are not the reasons that men and women are assaulted.”

Luckily, ​ Blumfield has supportive parents, boyfriend, and her boyfriend’s mom, who had her back. Her boyfriend’s mom even responded to negative comments.

After experiencing the backlash from others over a dress, Grace left a parting message to BuzzFeed about confidence and people wearing whatever they want because it “is their choice.”

“Nobody else has the right to tell someone to cover up more because it’s distracting — older men and women need to be taught to control themselves,” she said, in part.

Indy100 reached out to Grace Brumfield for further comment.