The Conversation (0)
x
Narjas Zatat
Sep 17, 2018

Picture:
iStock and Twitter screengrab
In the maelstrom created by bills, getting that perfect job, and watching all your peers do it ‘better’ on social media, sometimes it’s difficult to make sense of your life.
Sometimes, it’s difficult not to live in relation to another.
Professor Nyasha Junior posed a simple question for the women of Twitter:
If you are a 40+ woman, what one piece of advice would you give to your 20-something self?
The advice came pouring in as women from across the world wrote in.
These golden nuggets of knowledge can apply to men or women, and to those before or after their 20s…
1. If someone tells you to wait your turn, ignore them.
@NyashaJunior If anybody tells you you need to bide your time or wait your turn, they’re lying. They never intend t… https://t.co/X79YKU8PHJ— Caissie (@Caissie) 1537130062
2. Define success on your own terms.
@NyashaJunior Define success for yourself. Define what you care about. Don’t substitute the judgment of others for… https://t.co/szk103dlKL— Denise Hamilton (@Denise Hamilton) 1537118210
3. Don't pigeonhole your experiences.
@NyashaJunior Question the story you’ve told yourself about yourself. Try things, even if you’ve told yourself you… https://t.co/y6HyBUwnqq— Focus Pocus (@Focus Pocus) 1537119033
4. Never chase anyone who doesn't want you.
@NyashaJunior Never chase anyone who doesn’t want you. Not a job, not a love interest - you will always be begging… https://t.co/chfacEAUER— Lauri Lynnxe Murphy 🐝🌹🐌 (@Lauri Lynnxe Murphy 🐝🌹🐌) 1537135406
5. Learn your strengths and live using them .
@NyashaJunior Learn your strengths and design a life where you use them everyday. Get liberated from the myth of we… https://t.co/ujkGCkuxDL— Amber Benson (@Amber Benson) 1537136648
6. Trust your gut.
@NyashaJunior Fear is a liar. Trust your gut. Don’t use someone else’s mirror to see your own reflection. Say yes t… https://t.co/XXkMxamMRB— Grace Killelea (@Grace Killelea) 1537134559
7. Stop romanticising 'bad boys'.
@NyashaJunior “Bad boys” are not fun or sexy. They’re actually bad people and will hurt you in some way shape or form.— ❄️Kimba❄️ (@❄️Kimba❄️) 1537135799
8. Put yourself first.
@NyashaJunior You don’t have to set yourself on fire to keep anyone else warm. And stick to the original plan. Don’… https://t.co/YnX0WzNchr— Meat Virginia (@Meat Virginia) 1537119438
9. Be brave.
@NyashaJunior Whatever feels right for your life, be brave and just do it! And, if you make a mistake focus on the lesson, not the loss.— SCLASS 💙💛 (@SCLASS 💙💛) 1537117005
10. Cherish your friends.
@NyashaJunior Make friends and cherish them. You will need each other in your 40s.— Caroline (Carrie) T. Schroeder (@Caroline (Carrie) T. Schroeder) 1537116891
11. You can never have too much sunscreen.
@NyashaJunior @MeredthSalenger My aesthetician has told me that my melanin will stop popping if I don’t start wearing some. 😂— Danica 💫✨ (@Danica 💫✨) 1537134701
12. Don't apologise for who you are.
@NyashaJunior Don’t try to be someone you aren’t. Like what you like, act how you act, don’t apologize for who you are.— susan (@susan) 1537140932
13. Spend time with your loved ones.
@NyashaJunior Spend time with the people you love, especially elderly family members. They will be gone before you… https://t.co/E06Cdv5sZA— Lee Ann Thigpen (@Lee Ann Thigpen) 1537148629
14. Keep track of your accomplishments.
15. And finally...enjoy your 20s.
@NyashaJunior Enjoy that tight neck skin.— Sugar Jones (@Sugar Jones) 1537143025
More: Reporter rescues dog from treacherous Hurricane Florence flood waters
More: Cher used to call TV stations to bash George W. Bush and speak up about war veterans
Keep reading...Show less