Bride tries to ban fiancé’s grandma, 98, from wedding because she’ll ruin the ‘party atmosphere’

Bride tries to ban fiancé’s grandma, 98, from wedding because she’ll ruin the ‘party atmosphere’

A bride-to-be has been widely condemned on social media after insisting that her fiancé’s grandmother be excluded from their wedding.

The woman, 28, admitted that her demand had caused a major rift between her and her boyfriend but, she stressed: “I think I am within my right to make this request, I am the bride after all.”

Stating her case on Reddit, the 28-year-old explained that she and her partner had agreed not to have kids at their big day because they want the reception to be a “huge party for [our] adult friends and family with dancing, loud music and an open bar”.

“For precisely the same reasons that we don’t want kids there, I don’t want his elderly grandmother at our wedding either,” she continued, adding that she was willing to let the 98-year-old attend the ceremony, just not the reception.

“It will be extremely loud and I want it to be a party atmosphere, and she will be extremely out of place,” she said.

The Redditor then described how the grandmother was very upset at the prospect of missing the festivities, acknowledging: “He is her oldest grandchild and she probably won’t make it to the next family wedding.”

She admitted the grandma has ‘always dreamed about being at her grandson’s wedding’ Getty Images/iStockphoto

She said both her fiancé and his grandma insisted she’d be fine at the party but, she argued: “I just know it will inevitably lead to us dealing with her and taking care of her, and I just want to get drunk and let loose with my friends.”

Ending her post, the 28-year-old said the elderly relative was so upset she now “won’t talk to me”, and her boyfriend was angry too. But she was steadfast in her conviction that it was her special day and she should call the shots.

Fellow Redditors, however, disagreed, with the post racking up more than 12,900 upvotes and 2,500 comments in 24 hours as readers branded the young woman an “a**hole”.


“You’re hearing the love of your life say this is important. You’re hearing someone really important to your partner say this is important. And you’re putting getting drunk ahead of that? FFS,” one wrote. “She’s been a grown adult longer than you’ve been alive - I’m pretty sure she can handle any tiredness and noise as she wishes.”

A second pointed out: “If the grandmother wants to leave she can. No one is forcing her to be there, so if she doesn’t want to be there she can leave. Maybe with some assistance, but she is worth it. Your spouse wants it so badly and it’s only one person.”

And a third agreed, adding: “You’re treating an elderly person like a child - like a burden. That’s so demeaning.”

Scores of others suggested the bride cared more about herself than about the man she is set to marry.

“I’d honestly reconsider marrying someone so selfish and disrespectful to my family,” one remarked. “I get not wanting kids there, booze, etc., but God help if someone hurt my grandma’s feelings. What a brat!”

“You are not really acting like someone who cares about the person they are marrying and their family,” another said. “It is totally, utterly normal for a grandmother to be at all the wedding celebrations of her eldest child. You want a party that is all about you. You may as well do that without the wedding.”

And another launched into a furious pun-laden tirade, saying: “You’re making everyone so angry that even your cake will be in ‘tiers’ by the end. You’re not just being whiny, you’re getting matri-’moany’ about something really important to your fiancé and his grandma!

“I hope you have a really nice digital antenna, because at this point that’s the only ‘reception’ you’re going to see.”


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