Posting to the Am I The A**hole subreddit to seek second opinions on whether or not she made the right call by not selecting her to be a bridesmaid, the young bride explained that she and her sister are identical twins.
Although they’re identical, she claims her sister is “the more beautiful one”, and she feels that their parents favour her. Although this bothered her as a kid, she got over it when she grew up.
Her sister went to university and afterwards got engaged. When the wedding rolled around, however, the Redditor was shocked to discover she hadn’t been invited.
When she asked why, she was told it was “because they were having food [she] couldn’t eat.”
When her sister went through tough times with her ex, the Redditor said she tried to be there for her sister only to be pushed away.
Now, the Redditor is engaged to a 28-year-old woman. Although her fiancee’s parents offered to help with the wedding expenses, her own parents “want nothing to do with [their] wedding.”
She explained: “My sister found out we were engaged and started begging me if she could be bridesmaid. I told her no, but she would receive an invite.
“She blew up on the phone at me that I was choosing friends over family and she deserved to be a bridesmaid. My parents called me and told me to let my sister be a bridesmaid.”
The top comment with over 28,000 upvotes reads: “NTA [not the a**hole]. Tell her that you have food she can’t eat.” Responding to this comment, the Redditor said: “She hates lobster. I’ll see if they can do a lobster pasta dish.”
Another comment said they wouldn’t bother even inviting the sister at this point as she sounds like “the type who would just go for attention”. Replying, the original poster said her fiancee thought the same thing.
In another comment, a different user said: “I want to ask this in all seriousness — do you currently have a relationship with your family to ruin? Your sister is selfish, and your parents not only favor her, but depending on their reasons for not wanting to be involved in your wedding, may be homophobic as well.
“At best, you’re in a golden child/scapegoat dynamic. At worst, your bio donors are homophobic.”
Not all the comments felt the situation was quite as clear cut, however.
One user asked for more information, writing: “I think there’s a whole lot more going on here that what we can see in your post.”
They added: “Either OP’s [original poster’s] family are the most horrible people to walk the face of the earth... or there’s a whole lot more to the story that we’re not being told.”