Man confronted wife for buying him a Rolex with his money—and people think it’s a red flag

Man confronted wife for buying him a Rolex with his money—and people think it’s a red flag

A man confronted his wife for buying him a luxurious birthday present with his money - and the internet thinks it’s a red flag.

Taking to Reddit, the man in question spoke about the birthday dilemma between him and his wife.

He began the story with the idea that he reviewed the bank statements only to notice that his wife had purchased his birthday gifts with his money for two years. The first time he didn’t realise because the gift wasn’t too costly.

“We have a shared account to pay bills, but then we also have our individual credit/debit cards for personal expenses. She’s an authorized user on my credit card, but she’ll only use it if I ask her to buy something for me such as work clothes,” he wrote.

He continued to say that his wife bought him a Rolex watch this time around, and he “felt bad” and told her “she shouldn’t have” because what he bought her for her birthday wasn’t “as expensive.”

Then he wondered how she could afford the luxury watch brand unless she had been saving up for it.

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“She said she wanted to do something nice for me and she knew I liked it. One day I was attempting to buy a coffee before heading to work and my card was declined.”

Oh no.

“I called the bank, and they told me why they blocked the purchase. After reviewing the online statement, it does show the watch on my account, and that’s not my usual spending habits,” he continued to explain.

He then decided to speak to his wife about to which she told him, “I thought I used the shared account. I must’ve pulled out the wrong card by accident. I’m sorry.”

As a result of her response, he told her to return the Rolex because he felt it was “an unnecessary expense,” but she informed him to keep it because he could “afford it” and he “wanted one anyway.”

“Please appreciate me wanting to do something nice for you,” his wife told him.

People in the comments staunchly believed that he was not the a**hole in the situation and that this was a “serious red flag.”

“Purchases that cost several thousand dollars should be 1)made with one’s own money, 2) saved for 3) discussed prior to using a joint account. I’d be livid if ‘I’ brought myself a Rolex I haven’t budgeted for. Serious red flag, op,” someone wrote to which the man responded with, “Oh yeah. She’s trying to use sex to “make it up to me” too so that I’m not trying to figure out how to return this thing.”

“NTA. This is stealing and not okay. Her trying to minimize the purchase and dissuade you from cancelling it makes me think this might have been intentional,” another added.

Someone else responded, offering him some advice for the situation, and claimed to be a bankruptcy attorney.

“NTA. I’m a bankruptcy attorney, and this is a MAJOR red flag. The ability to throw $5K+ on a random card without being sure it’s going on the correct card is a sign that there are many, many other problems going on here. As far as the current incident goes- whether she drained your personal account without telling you or maxed out your credit card without telling you, this is a major issue that bears discussion. If she’s maxing out the joint bills account without telling you, that’s even worse.Please open a credit karma account for yourself to see how much debt she’s put in your name (if any.) You should also ask her to show you her credit Karma account if you have any interest or expectation of bailing her out of her debt or wanting to know how much she owes,” they said.

If you want to buy a lavish gift for someone, it’s safe to save your own funds.

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