A story of a drunk woman who stole $2,000 (£1,571) from a man in a bar is being turned into an anecdote about consent.
The story was told by a bar owner, who shared the funny tale online.
She wrote: "This dude has been calling my bar to check cameras because he asked a girl to put her number into his phone & she Venmo’d herself $2,000 drunk b****es are GENIUS."
Now, while the story itself is unfortunate for the man involved, the tweet blew up online as people used it to prove a point about doubting women who accuse men of sexual harassment and sexual assault.
this dude has been calling my bar to check the cameras because he asked a girl to put her number into his phone & s… https://t.co/rk9GYPI9rY
After the tweet went viral, the unfortunate man managed to get his money back. "The guy came back to the bar tonight & asked if I was the one that posted this tweet. I told him I was and then he thanked me for making him famous. And I was like no thank YOU for making ME famous. He also got his money refunded."
The guy came back to the bar tonight & asked if I was the one that posted this tweet. I told him I was and then he… https://t.co/MVILha4df2
Facebook members used the incident to flip the script and make the same defences people used to defend sexual predators, and victim-blaming…*
1. The ‘maybe he was wearing something and asked for it’ argument.
‘Check his previous reports. Maybe hes [sic] cried robbery before,’ Jamie-Lee Saitzeff wrote. ‘He was probably wearing a suit. That screams, “I want you to take my money.”’
2. The ‘he didn’t complain at the time' argument.
Christopher Hall said: ‘If he didn’t complain in that moment, he wanted it to happen and cannot complain now.
3. The ‘how do you know it actually happened?’ argument.
Katie Wilson suggested:
How do we even know she did it? Maybe it’s just another jealous man who has it out for her. We have to be careful with accusing women because an allegation like this could ruin her career and her future. This could follow her around for life. She has a family to take care of!
4. The ‘women have needs’ argument.
Caryn Twamley Kayser: ‘Women have needs. Girls will be girls. What did he expect would happen?’
5. The ‘If he opened up his wallet before…’ argument.
Well, if he opened up his wallet once to spend money in the past, why is he upset that he spent money here too? It’s not like his bank account is pristine.
6. The 'he asked for it' argument.
Lori Car: ‘He shouldn’t have been flashing his money. He asked for it. He wanted to give it to her.’
7. The ‘yeah but statistics say…’ argument.
Look, I don’t think I believe his story. Like 50 per cent of thefts reports are false. And tbh, being falsely accused of theft is WAY worse than being stolen from. Just my 2 cents.
8. The 'there are two sides' argument.
Katherine Hawkins: ‘Look, there's two sides to every story. She deserves a fair trial - let's not ruin her life and promising career because he drunkenly made a bad financial decision. Smh boys, you need to be more careful.’
9. The 'he just regrets it the morning after' argument.
Angelica Panda: 'Assuming this happen, how do we know he didn’t send it to her and he’s just having post-payment regret?'
*Disclaimer: This article has been brought to you with a giant dose of sarcasm.