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A viral thread explaining how grief feels has resurfaced.
Lauren Herschel shared an analogy she learned from her doctor which helps people express how feelings change over time.
Everyone experiences grief in different ways and it is rarely linear, with painful emotions often returning at unexpected times.
Herschel’s doctor showed her the “ball in a box” analogy to help her to understand how grief can be triggered at random moments.
She decided to share the tip with her Twitter followers.
After what has been a surprisingly okayish Christmas, I had a moment today in SuperStore. Saw a lady who reminded m… https://t.co/SMiD5DS7QW — Lauren Herschel (@Lauren Herschel)
The analogy suggests grief is like a box with a ball in it and a pain button on one side.
So grief is like this:
There’s a box with a ball in it. And a pain button.
And no, I am not known for my art skills. https://t.co/XDwCCdXVkc — Lauren Herschel (@Lauren Herschel)
In the early stages, the ball is big and will frequently hit the pain box – sometimes so much that it can feel like you can’t stop it.
In the beginning, the ball is huge. You can’t move the box without the ball hitting the pain button. It rattles aro… https://t.co/oK2avI0RLK — Lauren Herschel (@Lauren Herschel)
But as time goes on, the ball gets smaller.
It doesn’t disappear completely and when it hits the pain button, it’s just as intense, but generally, it is easier to get through each day.
Over time, the ball gets smaller. It hits the button less and less but when it does, it hurts just as much. It’s be… https://t.co/ORDBacXRBd — Lauren Herschel (@Lauren Herschel)
When she explained the analogy to her stepdad, he started using it to talk about his feelings.
I told my step dad about the ball in the box (with even worse pictures). He now uses it to talk about how he’s feel… https://t.co/Vmy2ettTtN — Lauren Herschel (@Lauren Herschel)
And other people thought the idea perfectly explained how they felt and thanked Lauren for sharing it.
@LaurenHerschel I want you to know that this is literally one of the best things I have ever read on Twitter... #theballgetssmaller ♥️♥️♥️ — Lauryn Norton (@Lauryn Norton)
@LaurenHerschel Thanks 4 sharing the BALL IN THE BOX analogy. My daughter died in July and we are adjusting to life… https://t.co/szXDiJE7BB — Cathy Campbell (@Cathy Campbell)
@LaurenHerschel @laurynnorton Thanks Lauren! I lost both parents within 9 days. I’ve got two balls in my box. This… https://t.co/8RNZhoZRsp — Jeff Davenport (@Jeff Davenport)
Even though it’s been a while since the post was first shared, the “ball in a box” analogy is still helping new people.
Everyone has to experience grief at some point in their life and the 'ball in a box' is a simple way to make it a little bit easier to talk about.
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