Street harassment. It can be as simple as an “OI LOVE GET ‘EM OUT” shouted from a white van, to an action infinitely more violent, like being the unwanted recipient of physical contact or persistent attention.
London-based comedian Aurie Styla had something to say to all the men out there using these kind of tactics to try and "get" women:
This happens all the time… it’s happened at carnival, this happens at raves… this happens way too often… PAY ATTENTION AND LISTEN:
The 29-year-old's video has received half a million views n Facebook, and nearly 10,000 shares. For obvious reasons.
indy100 spoke to Styla about it:
What made you upload it?
Initially, the topic was a light-hearted conversation between me and my friend, Nicole. We were laughing at how some men approach women in nightclubs and festivals, and going through the ways women turn down a man.
She was explaining things from a woman’s perspective.
As a comedian, it’s natural for me to express things with an angle of humour attached, so I took the topic to my Snapchat. In a matter of minutes, I was hit with countless messages from women who shared the same sentiments, who also found it refreshing and hilarious to hear a man expressing these views in such a way.
You talk about how many times women have approached you about pretending to be their boyfriend to fend off unwanted attention. Do you have an incident that sticks out in your mind?
Recently, I went to a festival and bumped into a group of friends. As I did, one of them walked right up to me and cuddled my arm, which wasn’t usual for her to do.
A few seconds later, three guys started hovering around us, one of which tried to grab my friend’s arm for her attention. One man said right away ‘oh so this is your man?’ and then proceeded to ask me questions to see if she was lying. The guys were not out rightly aggressive, but overly persistent, and had probably been rejected with the ‘I have a boyfriend’ adage before, hence why they felt it ok to question me. My friend didn’t seem nervous, but more annoyed that these guys wouldn’t take no for an answer, but the problem is, this could have easily been a more hostile situation with the wrong ego.
What else would you say about women and the harassment they often face in the street?
Looking at its response, there is evidently a problem. I’ve received a handful of messages from men who feel that I’m ruining the (chat-up) game for them, but if harassing a woman into liking is your skill, then you need to slap yourself. When a women has to pretend her status is unavailable, or her sexuality is not one you can provide for, just for you to understand no means no, then there is something wrong.
If you can’t speak to women, then stick to Tinder!
It’s embarrassing when you see a man degrade himself by bullying a woman into liking him.
If that’s how you conduct yourself with women, then you can’t complain when it happens your mother, sister or daughter.