There are a lot unspoken rules when taking on the role of bridesmaid, and many of them revolve around the sanctity of the wedding dress.
A bride recently posted anonymously on website Mama Mia! explaining what her bridesmaid Tanya did her most important of gowns.
She and her four bridesmaids had spent most weekends during the past few months shopping for the perfect wedding dress. Her bridesmaids, she explained, really stepped up to the plate, sending her constant dress inspiration and calling bridal boutiques to book appointments.
Last weekend she found her dream dress, and put down the 50 per cent required deposit. But, alas, the celebrations didn’t last long.
I was ecstatic and thrilled that I’d finally found my gown. I took my bridal party out for lunch afterwards to celebrate and we had a really lovely afternoon together.
But then when I got home I got a phone call from my bridesmaid Sandra that left me shaking and in tears.
Sandra informed me that another bridesmaid, Tanya, who is a close friend of mine from school, had shared a picture of me in the wedding dress I purchased on her Instagram account. I have social media, but I don’t use it or check it often.
She wasn’t aware the photo had even been taken, and called Tanya, who was immediately defensive. She argued and said she didn’t understand why she was upset, and tried to play it down.
Tanya’s Instagram account wasn’t private.
The bride wrote:
I wouldn’t have had an issue with her taking pictures as long as they remained private. But now a picture of me in my wedding dress is on the internet more than eight months before my wedding day. It makes me feel sick and as though the magic had been taken away and ruined.
Tanya insisted to know who told the bride about the photos, and subsequently deleted and blocked Sandra on all social media.
I’m now considering if I need to buy a new dress but I’ve already paid a $3000 deposit and really can’t afford to. But I feel like there’s no surprise or excitement around my dress anymore.
Every time I think about it I want to cry and can’t imagine walking down the aisle in this dress anymore.