10 things you should never, ever ask a gay or bi person

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YouTubers Riyadh K and Melanie Murphy have come up with 10 questions you should never ask a bisexual or gay person.

And here they are:

1. Who’s the man or woman in the relationship?

Riyadh says:

What you want to ask is who’s the masculine or feminine one in the relationship. Some people have no problem with that question, some people would find it offensive. But you don’t need to know it, to be honest.

2. Are you bi because you’re greedy?

Melanie says:

I think it’s an awful question to ask a person, because when you’re bi it just means you have the capacity to find men and women attractive.

3. Does your partner not worry about you cheating, because you’re bi?

Melanie says:

In my experience, not at all, because I’ve dated people who are very understanding of me... Straight people cheat all the time.

4. When did you realise you were gay or bi?

Riyadh says:

On the surface level, it’s absolutely fine – but what I normally say back to people is, 'When did you realise you were straight?'.

5. Why do gay guys always have to be so feminine?

Riyadh says:

Number one, what is masculinity and femininity in 2017? Who knows? It changes.

This is not an act, this is me. Also, I think it’s the tone of the question. If you ask someone, 'Why are you so feminine?' you’re kind of alluding to the fact you think being feminine and male is a bad thing. And it’s not a bad thing.

6. Can you please stop rubbing your sexuality in our faces?

Melanie says:

How many heterosexual relationships do we have to be force-fed our whole lives and there’s never a question about it at all?

Riyadh and Melanie argue that talking about their sexuality helps other people with their own sexuality and attitudes.

7. Will you be my gay best friend?

Riyadh says:

I won’t be your gay best friend, but if we get on very well I’ll just be your best friend. It’s not about being a product, it’s about being a person you want to be around a lot.

8. Can we go shopping together?

Riyadh says

No, that’s it

9. I have a gay/bi friend , can I introduce you two? Maybe you could go on a date

Riyadh says:

It’s the same as any other relationship, or dating situation, there has to be more compatibility there than the fact that you randomly happen to have the same sexuality.

10. You have same-sex marriage now, isn’t that enough?

Riyadh says:

No. there are so many things – the everyday homophobia that’s out there, discrimination in the workplace, international LGBT rights issues. The fight is on-going for equality. Gay marriage is nto the end of the battle but its definitely a big step.

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