Debates of what it actually takes for women to feel safe decades after equality movements with that purpose show no signs of stopping - it’s an emotional time for many women processing this tragedy.
Some people have taken comfort in content made by Tiktok user Herspective, known otherwise as Evelyn Koh. The Harvard graduate’s deconstruction of why using “not all men” as an excuse is so counterproductive has reached millions.
The video was made around a month ago, but the timing of it appears to have helped a lot of people verbalise why that defence is so wrong right now. It speaks volumes that she feels she has to list her credentials in order to be taken seriously, but it is worth noting that she has two degrees from the university on the topic.
She explains three reasons why using that kind of language doesn’t help anybody, explaining how it boils down to a “pick me” attitude where men create a divide between the good and the bad to help their egos.
“But I’m not one of them. If you depend on me to protect you from male violence, you’ll be good”.
Evelyn expertly unpicks why the reaction boils down to tone policing women instead of productive action against those responsible for upholding patriarchal culture. Questions are raised about why stronger reactions are evoked from having conversations about the topic than the actual violence itself.
She covers so much ground eloquently and accessibly - you can view the video here.
People on Twitter have been discussing the repercussions of this psychology.
“not all men”
not all berries are poisonous but if i’m walking in a forest where all berries look the same, i’m not taking any chances