A man, who only wanted to make his wife feel better about her weight, decided to change her clothing tags sizes and it backfired badly.
The husband, who posted on the "Am I An Asshole" subreddit, explained that his wife has gained some weight over the last few months and that she feels very bad about it. But despite him giving her compliments, she is still negative about her weight, causing him to take it one step further. He wrote:
My wife has gained some weight over the last year, and keeps beating herself up over it. She’s always sadly talking about her sizes and calling herself too big. She lost her excitement with shopping and a few months ago I guess I made a step to change that.
So the husband started switching out his wife's clothing tags, trying to convince her that she hadn't put any weight on in the first place. How did he do this, you ask? Let him explain:
She’s always asking me to get things for her while she’s in the dressing room, new sizes etc. She told me to get a pair of jean shorts for her in a size 6 (this size is too small for her now by a lot. She’s kind of in denial about this and always asks for a size 6 and then gets very upset when it won’t fit at all. She’s more of a size 10 or 12 now. )
I don’t know... I got a bigger size and changed the sticker on the jeans so it said size 6. When it fit she was so happy and kept showing me and saying she’s so proud. She said she must have lost weight but doesn’t know what she did. She bought them feeling very confident with herself. When we got home, I cut the tag off the shorts.
But obviously, you cannot get away with something like this, so it was only a matter of time until his wife found out. While it was all good-intentioned, she, unfortunately, didn't understand why he would do such a thing.
I didn’t mean to but a few times after that I did it again. I guess it was part wanting to see my wife happy and part not knowing how to deal with the same meltdown happening every time. She looks really beautiful even if she gained some weight. I kept doing this and only recently did she realize that the tags on her clothes are missing. She asked me about it and I said I didn’t know, maybe the store doesn’t use them, but she googled the store and proved they did.
I had to come clean and now she’s furious. She keeps saying I’m an asshole and treating her like an idiot, lied to her, stuff like that. My heart is broken too. We haven’t spoken in days.
The man received a lot of advice on the Reddit thread, with most people saying that while he only meant well, his idea to change her clothing size tags was pretty bad and not productive whatsoever.