Human relationships are never a walk in the park - no matter what that infuratingly perfect couple tell you on their wedding day.
So here are just a few of the major 'deal breaker' moments that have ended relationships, as ranted about on dating forums.
indy100 has found the red flag moments most people complain about.
1. They act like your child
I remember waking up one day and realising I wasn't his girlfriend, I was his mother. I dumped him that day. I didn't even cry. I was so relieved.
Writing on reddit, the user 'KitchenSwillForPigs' relayed this common complaint, that you're actually parenting your partner instead of being with them. As well as this being no fun, it's a bad sign of their character that they're taking advantage of you like this.
2. Their friends annoy you
This came up a frequently among people seeking advice. Although there are only as many people in a relationship as you want, a person’s friends are often an extension of them. Being incompatible with the friends might mean you’re not the best fit.
It’s true that everyone has one or two friends that are “special” (read: weird) that you have to tolerate. However, if all of your boyfriend’s/girlfriend’s friends drive you nuts and these pals have been around since the sixth grade, odds are that the situation will not go away. If your new steady is surrounded by a village of idiots—guess what—your dearest is probably one too.
3. They make you feel drained
It’s officially not fun anymore when you come away from time with them and feel exhausted, but not in a “we had so much sex bring some Lucozade now, please, I beg you” exhausted.
Dr Ian Kerner, a relationship therapist for goodinbed.com told Saga this red flag can be resolved, but you shouldn’t attempt the impossible.
Try to pinpoint what it is about being with your partner that makes you feel this way… Then try to raise the issue with him or her. If you can’t resolve it, or if you feel you don’t want to put energy into trying, it could be time to walk away.
4. They don’t trust you
Not trusting you can be due to their own insecurities, but it’s not your fault, and nor is it your job to go above and beyond the call of duty to show them you’re trustworthy.
PastyNProud on reddit regaled readers with this tale:
He yelled at me and accused me of cheating because he found another man's pubic hair on my toilet seat.
It was dog hair.
He still didn't believe me when I got the dog and compared its fur to the hair found on the toilet seat.
5. Odd behaviour
Some of these red flags seem very specific, like this one from ‘Craignate’ on reddit.
She tried to kick a pigeon and fell over.
Or this weird accusation said to ‘Darthvault19’.
Accusing me of trying to poison him by putting a cockroach in his coffee.
6. They’re rude to waiters.
Another recurring character trait that puts people off their date, is when the person is rude to the person bringing them food.
This is a hard and fast rule for friendships too.
Getting help for more serious concerns
Some of the posts were much less jovial, and constituted abuse, both physical and mental.